End of the Road

Well couldn’t you
Say you do
Say you might
For tonight
Have a heart
Bend the truth
Even if you don’t
Couldn’t you

– “Say You Do” Dierks Bentley

Last January, I made a goal that said I was going to make a decision about Dandy and be okay if that meant I was going to have to sell him. Well that decision has finally been made.

I’m selling Dandy.

If you’ve read between the lines, you’ve probably realized that this was coming but it was not an easy decision. Both JLE and I went back and forth a few times trying to decide if we could make this work. Sometimes it was yes but more often that not its was no.

Tonight, I made the decision for good. I was pretty sure this was going to happen but then I got on Dandy to warm up and he was just a complete ass. I barely touched him with the whip and he leapt into the air and bucked. I wasn’t even scared. I was pissed. So completely pissed. By the time JLE was ready for me, the decision was 100% and I told her I needed to sell him. She agreed with me, we ended the lesson and then we went to get a margarita.

I’ll admit that I’ve been crying a fair bit tonight. Even though I know it’s the right decision, it’s still a hard decision. I do love him. He is a great horse. He’s just not the right horse for me.


19 thoughts on “End of the Road

  1. 🙁 I’m sorry, but I think you’ll be happier in the long run. Sometimes the most athletic, amazing horse in the world just isn’t a great match! He will find an amazing home I’m sure.

  2. so sorry you were faced with this decision. but it’s very clear that you explored every available option – including all the work your trainer put into him. wishing you all the best in finding Dandy a happy home and finding yourself a ready and willing partner!!

  3. Im sorry things ended this way but kudos to you for investing all of the time that you did. No regrets now, just time to find Dandy a great match and move on. Hang in there during this transition.

  4. I was wondering if this was going to happen. Hugs! I haven’t been exactly in your shoes (had to get rid of a mare i LOVED because she wasn’t into competing) but know it is SO HARD to move on. It’s best to find something that fits you, as adult ammys we have to enjoy what we are doing and have a partner who is right there with us.

    Will you be getting another horse?

    I am sure Dandy will find an awesome home.

    We are here for you! Hugs!

  5. These decisions are always very hard to make, but from reading your blog over the last year it sounds like the right one for you. The right horse is out there waiting for you!

  6. Awh, hugs! I’m sure you’re making the right decision. My mother has always said that when you have the right horse, you’ll know it, and it’s not fair to you (or the horse!) to keep one that you just don’t click with. The right horse for you is waiting, and the right owner for Dandy is waiting, too!

  7. Sorry to hear this. He’s a super nice horse but life is way too short to own a horse that you don’t find enjoyable. I don’t blame you one bit. Good luck selling!

  8. Although I’m sure that’s a near impossible decision to make I really feel like you’re making the right one, just from reading along. It’s so cliche but everything happens for a reason, and the fact that it’s not working out with Dandy means there’s something else that is supposed to work out for you instead.

  9. Been there, done that. Have the T-Shirt.
    Such a hard decision to make, but we spend WAAAAYYY too much money in this sport to keep on keepin’ on when it is not the right match. As an adult Ammy, 1) I feel you should be having fun and 2) you should be reasonably safe. If either of those two things are in question, time to move on.

  10. I’m sorry he didn’t work out for you, but I’m sure you’ll find him a great home. And I hope the next one is everything you want!

  11. I applaud you for sticking to your plan and making a solid decision. You haven’t sounded like you were having fun all this year and it was really difficult for me to read, because I have so been there. Dandy is a really cool horse for someone else. Here’s to finding him the best home and you finding a partner that you can have fun on.

    Because OMG this sport is so awesome on a fun horse.

  12. I think many horse people have been in this position but not many have given it their all to try and make it work like you have. All you have done for this horse is amazing and will only set him up for success in his future. I hope you find him an awesome home and can find you something to go compete on 🙂

  13. As another adult ammy, I’m really proud of you! You did everything you could to work with him, and didn’t take the choice lightly. Wishing you all the best in finding a new partner for you and Dandy! Have another marg if you need it! Hugs.

  14. Sounds like you’ll probably get a horse that’s better suited to you but that doesn’t make it any easier. I just sold Houston and decided to take a break from horses so I can relate to the pain and heartache. You’ll be happier in the end with a horse that you enjoy though. Hoping the right person for dandy comes along quickly.

  15. What a tough, tough choice. I really respect you for making it though, and I believe that in the end, you’ll both be happier for it <3

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